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It’s time to rethink the way we do parenthood

One-to-one, couples, and organizational coaching for people ready for a change.

do these sound like you?

“There’s just not enough time in my day.”

“My life as a parent isn’t what I hoped it would be.”

“I’m struggling to balance everything on my plate.”

“I want kids, but I’m afraid it’ll destroy my life/my relationship.”

“I feel burnt out, exhausted, and disconnected.”

“I don’t even recognize myself anymore.”


If so, you’re far from alone, friend — this place is for you.

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You deserve to live a life of wholeness. right now.

We all have pictures of how we want to show up in the different areas of our lives - how we want to show up as parents, partners, professionals, and members of our communities.

The problem comes when these “ideal” versions of ourselves start competing for attention. Life starts feeling like scrambling to meet a list of expectations or put out a series of fires rather than something to be lived and enjoyed.

The truth is, traditional systems and parental roles have set us up for failure. Combined with the effects of influencer culture, capitalism, and the commodified wellness industry, mothers everywhere are burned out, stressed out, and feeling like a shell of their former selves.

If you leave here with one thing, I want it to be this:

It doesn’t have to be this way. There is another way.

work with me

one-on-one

Tell me about the life you’re after. What parts of you are fulfilled? What parts of you are begging to be nurtured? In our one-on-one time together, we’ll work to understand your needs, desires, and values. We’ll explore the things that hold you back and deepen your sense of trust in yourself. We’ll celebrate wins, learn from challenges, and help you prioritize in ways that help you feel more powerful, aligned, and nurtured.

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couples

Let’s face it - many of us weren’t raised in homes where we learned what an equitable division of domestic labor looks like, let alone how to get there. Informed by Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play method, couples coaching will give you a new vocabulary and understanding around what it takes to keep your household running, as well as tools to mindfully discuss what equity means within the context of your family. (Great fit for all couples - kids or not!)

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organizations

When organizations intentionally create an atmosphere of belonging, their teams thrive. Wholeself blends community, personalized support, and education to increase retention, engagement, and career mobility. Whether it’s working with me to explore family-friendly policies for your workplace, hosting workshops, or supporting new parents with one to one coaching, we can work together to build a culture that helps your company thrive.

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  • “Working with Tiffany as my coach has enhanced my life in a tremendous way. Her ability to listen, guide, and support me has taken me farther than any therapy session I’ve ever had. The monthly check-ins keep me focused, motivated, and, most importantly, I feel heard. I am so grateful that I started working with her."

    -Liz Jenkinson, Real Estate Dev Manager, Mom

  • “Tiffany is a very masterful Coach. An intuitive listener, connector, and facilitator for mental formation explorations, she offered me space to define my "real" problems and trace them back to their root. She allowed me to speak my unspoken words and get out of the "stuckness" right in our first coaching session."

    -Sam Roychowdhury, Product Manager, Dad

  • "My meetings with Tiffany are like chats with a good friend who just gets me. She understands my concerns and struggles, and has helpful insights to share. She reframes the problems that I present so that I can think about them differently in order to find solutions. I always feel more organized and centered after our time together."

    -Julie Samaris, Senior Manager, Mom

Hi, friend. I’m tiffany.

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I’m a full-time working mom of two small boys, a wife, a bulldog mom, an avid reader, novice gardener, Starbucks drinker, and tech geek.

I have a deep passion for coaching as both a discipline and a practice, and one of my greatest joys in life is having the privilege of supporting my clients in pursuing their truest, most fulfilling versions of themselves.

Beyond this, I know that looking for a coach can feel overwhelming, and it can be tough to get a sense of who someone is online. If you’d like to have an intro chat over Zoom to get to know each other, let me know - I’m happy to meet!

FAQ’s

Some questions that may be coming to your mind:

  • Coaching is partnering with a client in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. We all have goals we want to reach, challenges we’re striving to overcome, and times where we feel flat out stuck. Partnering with a coach can change your life, setting you on a path to greater personal and professional fulfillment.

  • Coaching isn’t therapy, and therapy isn’t coaching. It’s important to understand the difference between these two disciplines so you can make sure you’re getting the support you need from the right professional.

    I think of therapy as “archeology,” where professionals are seeking to understand why something existed, how it came to be, and the role it played in forming who we are.

    Coaching is like “architecture.” We’re seeking to understand who someone is, who they want to become, and how we can get there. While this still involves exploring elements of someone’s past ways of being, it isn’t the focus and goal.

  • I don’t put this on my site because there isn’t a “one size fits all” solution for my services. I set my prices based on a sliding scale to make sure that those who need help have access. The best way to navigate this is to connect with me so I can understand your needs and how I can help.

  • First I’d say - you aren’t alone in feeling this way. I know that it can feel scary to see that there’s inequity in the division of labor in your home, and getting the vibe that your partner isn’t interested in working on it can make you question everything. This doesn’t automatically mean that it’s time to start looking for a lawyer and dividing up your finances. It does mean, however, it’s time to get clear on what you need and communicate it in a way that your partner can hear.

    Being in a partnership means being a part of a team. When a member of the team is struggling, it’s on the individuals within that team to bring up their needs, intentionally listen, and navigate a path forward - together.

    While domestic equity has been a very long-standing issue in our country (if not the world), it hasn’t been until recently that couples are waking up to the harm these issues cause (on both a relational and societal level) and deciding to forge another path.

    Sometimes forging this path can get messy, requiring great communication, forgiveness, and a desire to do better.

    The people in our lives that truly love us want us to have what we need to thrive, and you are deserving of this love.

  • Too many to write here! But I’ll give you a taste:

    Untamed - Glennon Doyle

    Fair Play - Eve Rodsky

    Real Self Care - Pooja Lakshmin

    Matricentric Feminism - Andrea O’Reilly

    Anything by Brene Brown

    The Time Has Come - Michael Kaufman

    To Have and to Hold - Molly Millwood

    The Feminine Mystique - Betty Friedan

    Emotional Agility - Susan David

    Motherwhelmed - Beth Berry

    Forget “Having It All” - Amy Westervelt

    Mommy Burnout - Sheryl Ziegler

Glossary

Language builds connection. Here’s how I use these terms:

  • Individuals within a committed relationship. While much of my perspective is based on a married, hetero-cisgendered perspective, this is in no way meant to exclude the huge numbers of people who do not identify as such.

  • A person who brings up and cares for another. Wholeself does not limit the definition of a parent to a biological context, but instead, uses this term to encapsulate the relationship between two individuals in which one provides for, cares for, protects, counsels, teaches, and models personhood for another.

  • Wholeself doesn’t limit this term to biological mothers, but anyone who does the work of mothering as a central part of their life. The category of mother is distinct from the category of woman, and many of the problems mothers face - social, economic, political, cultural, psychological - are specific to women’s roles and identity as mothers. Mothers are oppressed under patriarchy as women and as mothers.

  • An oppressive system of relationships, beliefs, and values embedded in political, social, and economic systems that structure gender inequality between men and women. In this system, attributes seen as “feminine” are undervalued, while those regarded as “masculine” are privileged.

  • The division of tasks that keep a household running. Sometimes these tasks are visible, such as dishes or laundry. Other times they’re invisible, such as answering your kids’ hard questions, or coaching your partner on a career issue. Wholeself believes that all of these tasks are real, visible or not.

  • The acknowledgement that all oppression is linked. Everyone has their own unique experiences of discrimination and oppression, and we must consider everything and anything that can marginalize people - gender, race, class, sexual orientation, physical ability, etc.

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